Myths About
Marriage
1. You can save your marriage just by learning
to communicate more sensitively.
2. Personality problems ruin marriages.
We all have our crazy ways. The key is finding someone you mesh with
problems and all. Accommodate each other’s strange side.
3. Common interests keep you together.
It all depends on how you interact
while pursuing those interests.
4. You scratch my back and…
Happy spouses don’t keep track on
who’s done what in a marriage.
5. Avoiding conflict will ruin your marriage.
Couples have different styles of
conflict. No style is better than the
other.
The important point here is that the
style works for both people.
6. Affairs are the root cause of divorce.
It’s usually the other way
around. Marriages in trouble may send
one or
both out to look for an intimate
relationship.
7. Men are not biologically “built” for
marriage.
The frequency of affairs doesn’t
depend on gender as much as opportunity.
8. Men and women are from different planets.
Gender differences may contribute to marital problems, but
they don’t cause them.
The determining factor in
whether wives feel satisfied with the sex, romance, and passion in their
marriage is, by 70%, the quality of the couple’s friendship. For men, the determining factor is, by 70%,
the quality of the couple’s friendship.
So men and women come from the same planet after all.
Source: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage
Work, John Gottman PH. D.
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