It's important to realize that both the husband and wife should contribute equally but differently to the relationship.
Do you recognize the things your spouse adds to your marriage?
Can you put into words how some of the things they do makes you feel?
What have you done lately to mutually strengthen your relationship?
What do you do to sustain and lift your partner?
Elder Bruce C. Hafen, in a talk entitled Covenant Marriage, teaches us some things to watch out for that may creep into our marriages. He calls them the three wolves.
The first wolf is natural adversity. Every marriage is tested by this repeatedly.
Adversity can strengthen or rip apart marriage bonds. What have you done in your marriage that has brought you together in a crisis?
If you didn't grow closer in the last adverse situation, what will you do next time this wolf knocks at your door to make sure that doesn't happen again?
The second wolf is our own imperfections. Are we critical of our spouse?
Complement your spouse for something they have done recently.
Discuss how it makes you feel when your spouse is critical of you.
The third wolf is excessive individualism. There is an overemphasis on personal autonomy.
What do you love doing together with your spouse and family?
How does doing things together as opposed to individually build eternal bonds?
We all need to come together and share our hearts and feelings about ways we can help our marriages grow to eternal perfection and be happier while we are here on earth together.
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